Justifying the status quo

13 May

It’s convenient being a member of the human species.

For one, its just us who are able to find or make a reason for everything we want to do or do not want to do.

Our relatively larger brain   enables high levels of  abstract  reasoning, language, problem solving, and thus excuses are never a problem for us to make

They  pop in naturally, and for me I need a ready set of antibodies to ward off its effects

Whenever I try to form or keep a habit, I find my brain being really savvy at churning out justifications that will rationalize for me why I shouldn’t do what I thought I should.

Its like the time I decided to begin driving – Out were my grey cells telling me things like-

‘Today you have other urgent things to do’

Or ‘ its ok not to do it today cz it’s the weekend and I’ll begin on Monday’

Or ‘ Anyways in this traffic driving around is not a great experience”

Or’ I’ve done all the other things I had decided to do ….. one thing not attempted is ok

Such and more are the loopholes my mind ingeniously concocts to help me escape from what I know I should do….. from what’s good for me.

Figuring out why we know we should be doing something but find a zillion reasons not to do it helps  break that barrier that prevents us from building habits.

New behavior takes time and effort and can be difficult, so instinctively we persuade ourselves to avoid them and create resistance.

Can’t say it’s easy –  following through with new habits, nor have I managed to do it in the case of driving , but in many other areas of my life I’ve managed to stick to my habit with a little bit of willpower.

But willpower isn’t an ally at all times ….it does let me down sometimes – thats when I have to reason out with my other more rational self  and give her evidence why I need to do what I had decided to do, all the while hoping that  this side sees the benefits of getting into the habit of doing a certain thing.

The last thing I want to do is live with a boxful of reasons why I cant do ,or wont do what needs to be done.

Living with the Excusitis syndrome ‘has lasting consequences.-

It paralyzes us , creates mental blocks, brings in  self limiting beliefs and a is responsible for  major dissonance in the head

What works then? ….

Here’s the cheery part

Step out onto the highway with  persistence, optimism, confidence and  a clear  focus on  the end result

Look  for cheerleaders whose support helps you get a slightly better edge while dealing with loopholes….

A little bit of will power to add and there you go  pushing  through those excuses and don’t forget to  reward yourself for some of the amazing accomplishments you have achieved.

 

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