Archive | May, 2015

Justifying the status quo

13 May

It’s convenient being a member of the human species.

For one, its just us who are able to find or make a reason for everything we want to do or do not want to do.

Our relatively larger brain   enables high levels of  abstract  reasoning, language, problem solving, and thus excuses are never a problem for us to make

They  pop in naturally, and for me I need a ready set of antibodies to ward off its effects

Whenever I try to form or keep a habit, I find my brain being really savvy at churning out justifications that will rationalize for me why I shouldn’t do what I thought I should.

Its like the time I decided to begin driving – Out were my grey cells telling me things like-

‘Today you have other urgent things to do’

Or ‘ its ok not to do it today cz it’s the weekend and I’ll begin on Monday’

Or ‘ Anyways in this traffic driving around is not a great experience”

Or’ I’ve done all the other things I had decided to do ….. one thing not attempted is ok

Such and more are the loopholes my mind ingeniously concocts to help me escape from what I know I should do….. from what’s good for me.

Figuring out why we know we should be doing something but find a zillion reasons not to do it helps  break that barrier that prevents us from building habits.

New behavior takes time and effort and can be difficult, so instinctively we persuade ourselves to avoid them and create resistance.

Can’t say it’s easy –  following through with new habits, nor have I managed to do it in the case of driving , but in many other areas of my life I’ve managed to stick to my habit with a little bit of willpower.

But willpower isn’t an ally at all times ….it does let me down sometimes – thats when I have to reason out with my other more rational self  and give her evidence why I need to do what I had decided to do, all the while hoping that  this side sees the benefits of getting into the habit of doing a certain thing.

The last thing I want to do is live with a boxful of reasons why I cant do ,or wont do what needs to be done.

Living with the Excusitis syndrome ‘has lasting consequences.-

It paralyzes us , creates mental blocks, brings in  self limiting beliefs and a is responsible for  major dissonance in the head

What works then? ….

Here’s the cheery part

Step out onto the highway with  persistence, optimism, confidence and  a clear  focus on  the end result

Look  for cheerleaders whose support helps you get a slightly better edge while dealing with loopholes….

A little bit of will power to add and there you go  pushing  through those excuses and don’t forget to  reward yourself for some of the amazing accomplishments you have achieved.

 

Carving out time to do what matters

1 May

Someone once said – Days are long but Years are short.

Often I have to remind myself  to make time for the things that matter to me because one never knows when you run out of time

There’s so much out there – places you  wanna  see , adventures you haven’t  experienced,  people you desire to spend time with. .

Once in a while kick aside the routine. Routine is boring and keeps you in her grip until you decide to shake her off.

As you grow older, the more anchors there are holding you back.  Time seems to move fast . ..  Summers move into winters in the blink of an eye. The clock keeps ticking away and soon it’s another year gone by with the same unexplored dreams.

You get just one life and it’s worth the effort to pursue what you so love.

Make an uncensored list of your dreams- write it down. And go about getting them to happen.

Maybe you are all settled in and don’t want to create ripples or rock the boat; Fair enough – take baby steps  that keep you  feeling  alive.

What’s more disturbing than knowing you’ve lived a life that’s just passed you by ?

Taking off seems a difficult decision to make but once you begin to live your dreams, decision making seems as easy as a bird flapping its wings.

Sometimes your decisions aren’t too great; No worries, turn around or take a detour. Life is too short to mull over all the crappy decisions you’ve made.  Learn your lesson and move on.

Fulfilment – that’s what I want to get to and I don’t want to wait till the time is right.

Waiting is exhausting and there is no right time . Create your own special bits of time- chase them and make them happen. Chip off and gouge out these moments from your routine.  These are  precious moments to savour and  do what you’ve  always wanted to do.

Push through resistance, turn your face towards the wind and embrace that special moment right now.