Archive | January, 2013

Whats in a name ?……..pretty much I’d say !!

6 Jan



‘Baby’ ….called my aunt . now if u were anywhere around you would probably expect a lil kid to come prancing out of the room .  but lo and behold – Baby is my 70 year old  uncle  who sits  noiselessly in  the house like an old moth only to make a sudden dash when my  aunt affectionately sings out “ Baby cha “.

Since then  Syrian Christian names have  caught my fancy. I knew this family whose kids went by the names of Pranju , Piley and Porinjut ……each time I looked at them I couldn’t help but smile. They surely had the courage to walk around with names like that.       If that wasn’t terrible their official names were  Itty Geevarghese  OOlamkattil, OOlamkattil Geevarghese idiculla, Lonan ipe Oolamkattil…….Yikes !!     What were their parents thinking of when they named them ?  Then there was this ferret faced kid  named  Lovely Rose who  appeared more like  a polar bear than a rose.   Some names don’t require much thinking at all , just rearrangement of letters like Liji , Loju , laiju or the all time favourite  Biju, Biji , Jibi , jobu.     I have stretched my imagination but am  still at a loss on what  these names mean ?      Once I met this person called Modman…….i completely understand why he would shrink into his seat when it was his turn to introduce himself.   Then there is Jiji and Jaiju…………The couple created constant confusion , none of us could remember what the husbands name was

The funniest  I ever heard was Semi and Locus …..have a feeling that their parents were obsessed with the circle.    Kochuthresia was one of the largest women I ever saw  .  Then again there were parents who didn’t bother to think of a name…….if it were a boy he would just be Mon……ofcourse more than one Mon would mean differentiating them into Veliya Mon and Kochu Mon

A decade later Some of the rib – splittin “whopper” names  would include ‘Fishy Thomas” ( her parents definitely had a sense of humor) Hairy George…….i later figured that the mother intended it to be Harry but didn’t know how to spell it; Miseals  Kattipattuvakkam – As if a surname like that isn’t enough to make your life difficult the parents decide to make your name sound like a disease ; Hiena  George – now would you call these parents mean or what????????

I cant end this without telling you the names of my favourite twins – Tolstoy and Brezhnev. No guesses where their parents got the names.

So why do parents choose these bizarre names? Is it to stand out ?  Every child is unique but it doesn’t mean they need  a crazy name. Parents cannot predict their childs future so while  Bobbilikumar  is a cute name when you are 4  it certainly isn’t one you’d like to introduce yourself with as a lawyer at 35 when you want to be taken  seriously when you introduce yourself rather than having to explain  for the zillionth  time “ oh my parents liked the sound of it.

As much as I am entertained by these names ……there are times I wish parents  didn’t  spit up a few alphabets  when the amniotic fluid is wiped off the baby in the desire to have a unique and special kid. Unique they maybe…………. but overwrought with turmoil they certainly will be.  Playing Word Search with letters to form names isn’t  Amusing, Brilliant or Reasonable.




Rewiring the brain

5 Jan



A lazy Saturday afternoon, an unsettling feeling inside of me and a  premise  I live by  that Books are a mans best friend ….all three reasons found me at my favourite book shop – Crosswords.

Browsing through, my eyes fell on the book – Teach yourself to be happy . That’s weird . how does one do that? You can learn to make an omlette or knit maybe ……but happiness …..can it be learnt ?

Isn’t Happiness something that comes to you as naturally like breathing or walking ?

Sipping on a coffee I began to wonder……….if like the book said “Happiness lies inside all of  us” then all we need to know is how to access it and cultivate it. Interesting !!!!! so then it is this internal happiness that forms the baseline for all of us . The level to which we return when our temporary highs are done.

Unless you arrange your life in such a way that amazing things are constantly happening to you, it is this baseline happiness that you enjoy most of the time.

Raise this baseline and Eureka !!! happier a person you get to be . But how easy is it to retrain the mind?

Oriental philosophy talks of  “ Happy thoughts”. “Too Simplistic!” argues my brain.  Can we actually feel better by just changing the way we think ? Am not entirely sure……but I am going to be trying it

For starters I am going to be keeping a ‘happiness diary’ just to see where most of my happiness has been coming from.

Another thing – am going to smile a lot more often and laugh for  no reason.                                                                                                                      As Annette Goodheart says “Laughter doesn’t need a reason to be , in fact laughter is unreasonable, illogical and irrational. Laughter exists for its own sake”.    Before I get going with my new philosophy I definitely need to explain it to the people I interact with, else they would probably be sending for men in white coats  !!!!!!!!